Luca wrote:What would you give as a simple definition or example (imagine you are explaining it to a child) of “style”?
Perhaps here is the crux of the matter: style has no objective existence. We experience the presence of certain people as filled with style. Pretty clothes and charming manners certainly do not constitute style. Clothes are not enough and often not even necessary for this experience. Ditto for moral virtues, education or faith. There is no failsafe recipe for style. The main ingredient is between and beyond these elements. Just the way sound is not music (even if produced with the intention to make music), but we may subjectively experience it as music under certain conditions.
The experience of style boils down, in my view, to the congruence between what one is and what one appears to be (=has and displays). We often write about "pulling it off" to wear this jacket or that ensemble: one man seems to able to "fill the clothes", while another is perceived to fail (with the same clothes). Such perception is not analytical and we don't need an hour of thinking to decide whether someone has style or not - it is a direct experience and we decide this in seconds. We most likely don't even formulate it as such in our minds, we just live it. Arguments are often a posteriori.
Again, this is not the definition of style - just what it seems to involve. The last thing I look for is to be dogmatic about it

But we have been discussing terminology for years here (particularly with respect to style) and we can't start over from zero every time.
I regret that I may not be able to express myself more clearly, as well as the fact that some may not be willing to make the effort to grasp the sense of what I am describing beyond the face value of words. I am pointing to the moon and I get back criticism on my finger.
Interestingly, although I am advocating a practical approach in this topic - mastering the tangible, analyzable and communicable craft of dressing - rather than aiming for an elusive quality (which is, ultimately, somebody else's subjective experience of us), most contributions focus on that elusive thing which I am suggesting to forget about.