I believe within a certain circle, namely the connoisseur in men's attire, the concept of sprezzatura have become this ultimate achievement. However, from my observations in society, I see this concept leads to two different reactions amongst everyday life. To the person unknown to the concept, it seems entirely weird why you are wearing your watch on top of your shirt, or your tie outside your sweater etc. To the person familiar with the concept, there's an acknowledgement.
However, what I have come to see is men who is simply trying too hard, I acknowledge it because I know what they are trying to do, but I do not agree with their approach. Is it a case of me knowing this concept, hence I am too sensitive to it? I personally see no point in wearing a watch over my shirt like Agnelli, I cannot think of anything more contrived. Another example that I see is that the back blade of a tie hanging lower than the front blade, I think it was a nice touch when it was a centimetre or an inch lower, then it just got plain ridiculous and stupid. The list of examples goes on and on.
Quite simply, this is not my concept of sprezzatura at all. I see men in seeking this ideal have managed to achieve quite the opposite. There is a great Chinese proverb which I will try to translate, 'at its extreme, it is opposite'. This to me speaks the truth.
Like I said, I am no expert on the topic. So I went and seeked the help of wikipedia, which states some interpretations of the word sprezzatura:
a certain nonchalance, so as to conceal all art and make whatever one does or says appear to be without effort and almost without any thought about it
It is the ability of the courtier to display an easy facility in accomplishing difficult actions which hides the conscious effort that went into them
After reading these interpretations, at first, I thought it sounds about right. However, suddenly, something struck me. The words 'appear to be without effort', 'hides the conscious effort' and 'mask of apparent reticence and nonchalance', so it seems almost by definition, I am totally wrong, the whole concept is rather contrived and unnatural, just appear not to be, hiding it and masking it. I have always interpreted the word as style without thought, natural and nonchalant, it appears I am wrong, but I think in this instance, I will live my life my way.Sprezzatura has also been described as a form of defensive irony: the ability to disguise what one really desires, feels, thinks, and means or intends behind a mask of apparent reticence and nonchalance